5 Types of Narcissists and How to Spot Them

5 Types of Narcissists and How to Spot Them

“Narcissistic personality disorder is named after Narcissus, from Greek mythology, who fell in love with his own reflection. Freud used the term to describe persons who were self-absorbed, and psychoanalysts have focused on the narcissist’s need to bolster his or her self-esteem through grandiose fantasy, exaggerated ambition, exhibitionism, and feelings of entitlement,” wrote Donald W. Black

It seems nowadays that everyone’s ex is a narcissist and it’s only after the fact of splitting up, which is hard to do, that a lot of men and women realise this.

Predominantly the trait of narcissism is a male trait, but is not exclusive to males.  For this article we will will use the male narcissist as an example, but as I said this pertains to both men and women.

The narcissist is charming, funny, great company but at the end of the day it’s all about him.

5 Types of Narcissists and How to Spot Them

The Cheater

The cheater narcissist is by his very nature a liar and a master manipulator.  His cheating behaviour will be explained away quite easily for them and rationalised in their own minds.  They feel that their love and affection should be shared and not be exclusive to one person.  When caught cheating, of course, they will be sorry, they’ll tell you how much they love you and they’ll never do it again, but don’t be fooled.

How to spot the cheater narcissist

As you get to know them you will notice they have a lot of female friends, some of them ex girlfriends.  You might think they are just such a nice guy that his ex’s want to stay in touch with him.  This is not the case.  The cheater needs a lot of love and attention and loves how he can get it from his army of friends who adore him.

The Victim

The victim narcissist is sly and cunning and uses emotion and affection to manipulate their partners.  He will convince you that everyone is to blame for everything bad that has happened in his life and will not take responsibility for anything.   They use guilt and blame to get what they want in life and will even ask friends and family for support and handouts.  He will become deeply hurt if he does not get his own way and blames you for not being able to solve his problems.

How to spot the victim narcissist

Oh you will know them when you see and hear them.  They are energy drainers and will suck your energy dry if you don’t get rid of them.  Any problem you have in your life is nothing compared to the problems he has, he will always be much worse off than everyone else.  His self pity and constant riding of the ‘poor me’ train will eventually piss you off enough to leave him.

The Entitled

The entitled narcissist feels that he not only deserves to have everything he wants but is actually entitled to it.  This …read more
Source: Steven Aitchison