7 Happiness Robbing Thoughts You Need to Stop Today
Do you sometimes feel down? Like somewhere along the way you reached a fork in the road and your dreams went one way while you took the other path?
You take an impartial look at your life and figure out you actually have a lot going for you. And you wonder why you feel discouraged.
Does your happiness depend on your situation? It can’t be. You know there’s plenty of people living in poverty, in dangerous parts of the world who are happy.
So if your happiness is not completely dependent on your situation, what does it depend on?
Just like you can see the glass half full or half empty, you can look at your life and feel very lucky or like you missed the mark.
Let’s check out some crippling thoughts which stop you from finding happiness wherever you are in life.
1. If only I was more (fill in the blank)
Stop trying to be perfect. You’re always going to fall short in one area or another. Even the most successful people in the world have plenty of areas they wish they could improve.
The secret is not looking at what you don’t have, but to find your gifts. Are you really good at listening but not a great speaker? Many people wish they could find a great listener and are frustrated they haven’t.
Whatever things you are good at, meditate on them. Realize the great talents you have and how you can change lives for the better.
2. If only I had more money
No one feels like they have enough money. Stop anybody in the middle of the street and ask them if they could use an extra $1,000 a month. They’ll tell you, “Sure!” Even people you think they have it all, can always think of something they don’t have and want to buy.
Sure, money makes things easier, but it won’t make you happy. If you think money is going to plug the happiness hole in your life, you are fooling yourself. How many lottery winners out there are broke and miserable five years after they hit the jackpot?
3. If only I could reach my goals
Goals can be a double-edged sword. Yes, they propel you, keep you motivated, and can help get the best out of you. But you can go too far with goals.
When you set unrealistic goals, you are setting yourself up for frustration, failure, and unhappiness. It can take a long time to accomplish goals. In the meantime, you may doubt your ability to ever reach them and fall into the discouragement cycle.
It’s hard to strike a balance when it comes to your goals and dreams. It’s important to have motivating goals you want to reach. But when they become all-consuming, or make you feel like you have failed, you need to rethink them.
4. If only I had the right education
Education didn’t stop many of the greatest minds history has seen. Did Bill Gates or Steve Jobs finish college? They didn’t. Albert Einstein was a high school drop-out and initially failed …read more
Source: Steven Aitchison