7 Ways to Lift Yourself Out of Heavy Thoughts
Everyone can occasionally find themselves prey to heavy thoughts, which is a natural response to emotional sadness and anxiety. Forcing yourself to be positive under every circumstance is a constant strain and undesirable as a realistic view of life. If heavy thoughts keep returning, however, and begin to attach themselves, you need to know how to lift yourself out of the gloom. (We aren’t talking about long-term depression and anxiety, which require medical attention.)
The actions for overcoming heavy thoughts are always open to you. They fall under the category of coping skills. If you have few coping skills, you will be affected by external forces, and the mind’s roaming fears and doubts. If you have strong coping skills, you will have strong boundaries and resilient emotions. This is why two people can go through the same crisis, and one will be crushed while the other bounces back. The better you can cope, the less influence heavy thoughts will have over you.
Let’s look at a few of the best and easiest coping skills you can develop starting now.
1. Catch Your Negativity Early
Once you are sunk deep in gloom or anxiety, it’s more likely that you will find it hard to lift yourself up. So be on the lookout for the first signs of negativity. As soon as you spot a mood shift toward irritability, anger, frustration, worry, or pessimism, pause immediately. Take a few deep breaths and center yourself. Let the emotion pass, and get yourself somewhere quiet and pleasant, such as going outdoors for a walk.
2. Avoid External Stressors
Dark thoughts usually occur under stress, and if you can, you should get away from the stressor, whether it’s a negative person, a tense situation at work, or bad news on TV. Dark thoughts set in when they are reinforced, so don’t let anyone or anything reinforce your bad mood if you have the choice to push back.
3. Develop a Supportive Inner Dialogue
About 75 to 80 percent of people talk to themselves in their heads, and a small minority even hear inner conversations. When the voice in your head starts saying things that induce worry, fear, anger, guilt, shame, or lack of self-esteem, pause for a moment, and say to the voice, “That’s not me anymore.” Repeat until the dark thoughts depart. You might also try, “I don’t need this anymore. It doesn’t serve me.”
4. Keep Company with Positive, Optimistic People
We all have friends and family members who are downers. They are pessimistic or complaining; they insist on seeing worst-case scenarios and failure around the next bend. Inertia keeps you from walking away from these people, and sometimes you’re stuck in situations you can’t escape. But you can cultivate friendships with positive, optimistic people. Sociological studies have shown that you are more likely to adopt positive attitudes and behavior if you keep company with friends who already display them.