Balancing children’s needs vs spouse’s needs for New Moms
Balancing motherhood and marriage is no easy task. It can feel easy, natural even, to get so swept up in the pleasures and routine of being a mother that your romantic relationship takes a back seat. Motherhood is in your blood, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be giving your husband your undivided attention as well. The balancing act may make you feel like stretch Armstrong, and for good reason! Who deserves your attention more, your kids or your mate? Here are the top tips for balancing children’s needs vs spouse’s needs.
Why it becomes Difficult
In the early years of your relationship, you likely thought that your relationship encompassed the most heart-thumping, soul-filling love you could ever imagine. And then the baby came. Motherhood fills women with an unmistakable sense of purpose. The way you feel about your child creates a whole new level of love that you never dreamed could be real, like riding an escalator up to a floor in your heart you never knew existed.
With this new, inflated sense of love and purpose, mixed with the newfound frustration and exhaustion motherhood has left you in a constant state of, you may find that balancing children’s needs vs spouse’s needs is more difficult than you once thought.
Finding a Balance
You can’t devote your entire being to your husband and still expect your child to be cared for and secure, just as you can’t spend every waking moment with your children and expect your husband to feel loved and appreciated. There needs to be a balance.
New moms become like a lioness. Sometimes it feels as though your soul purpose in life is to give the best to your cubs; protecting them and spoiling them with the best that life has to offer. But, back in the day, you used to feel this way about your husband. Don’t believe for a second that in order to be a good mom you have to let his needs fall to the wayside.
There is a tricky balance that needs to be created once children enter your marriage. You need to give enough time to your husband to maintain your romantic relationship and still feel butterflies, love, and to have fun together. At the same time, you need to make sure your children are well-cared for, all while giving yourself a shred of alone time so that you don’t go absolutely insane. Don’t worry, it can be done! You just have to make the time.
Communicate with your Partner
As a mom, you can get so caught up in making sure the little ones are fed, clothed, washed, and thoroughly showered in love that you sometimes forget to take care of your man – and sometimes yourself!
He may love that you spend all your time doting on your little one’s or he may feel left out or jealous when things are really hectic at home. Learn to communicate with your husband about spending time together. If you’re stressed out and caring for your children, your husband may not …read more
Source: Steven Aitchison