Feeling Stuck? How to Create a Strategy to Move Forward
By Tris Thorp Tris ThorpIf you’ve ever felt “stuck,” you know what it’s like to have a certain mood that lingers over you like a dark cloud. Procrastinating on deadlines, confusion about what to do or where to begin, and other experiences of feeling stuck can leave you feeling anxious, apathetic, and out of options.
What causes a person to remain in a stuck state is not having a strategy for getting out. While it may seem that some people never get stuck, that’s not actually the case. Everyone gets stuck from time to time. Individuals that successfully avoid staying in stuck states simply have an effective strategy for getting themselves out of it as quickly as they got in.
A strategy is simply a plan, method, or series of maneuvers for obtaining a specific goal or result. You already have thousands of strategies embedded in your unconscious that dictate everyday behaviors. You have a strategy for everything you do, from brushing your teeth and driving a car to how you approach dating and resolve conflict.
Your unconscious strategies take action in a nano-second whenever you need them. Yet, in the case where you haven’t installed a strategy for how to do something, you get stuck. While some people’s strategy is to shut down, others are able to shift into a highly resourceful state and kick it into another gear.
Successful people have learned a successful strategy for getting themselves into a state where they see confusion as an opportunity for learning versus an impassable obstacle on the path. There is an opportunity here for you to learn new ways of doing things.
Creating Your Strategy
So, how do you get out of a stuck state? First, you need to figure out the state you are stuck in and decide how you want to feel instead. For example, you may want to get from procrastination to motivation, from confusion to resourcefulness, from apathy to inspiration, from feeling overwhelmed to being in control, or from having no options to totally going for it.
Next, figure out an intermediate state that will pull you from the stuck state and eventually move you into the desired state. In some cases, this intermediate state may be negative or “move away from” (what you want). For example, your stuck state may be procrastination, which leads you to feeling frustrated, and when you get frustrated enough, it might inspire you to get motivated. In this case, there are two intermediate states in the chain—frustration and inspiration—which pull you from the original stuck state of procrastination all the way through to motivation.
In other cases, your intermediate state might be positive or “move toward” (what you want). For example, a person who leans toward apathy might be pulled from that state if they feel curious, which might then lead them to excitement, which could then pull them all the way through to a state of being inspired.
Some examples of “move away from” states are:
“Move toward” states include:
However you design your strategy, an important point is that each intermediate …read more
Source: Deepak Chopra