How to Embrace Any Major Life Change

By Nicolette Stinson

Senior hispanic man sitting on bed in thought
Nicolette Stinson

You’ve been there before. That moment when you realize you have no idea what to do next. The one thing you do know is a major change is upon you.

Perhaps you left that painful, but familiar relationship, or you got your dream job and have to leave all your friends and family. Maybe you took that “great opportunity” and lost all your money. Or perhaps your job has been amazing for years, but now your new boss is a total jerk. Maybe you even received a diagnosis you never thought was coming.

Whether your situation is, there’s hope. In her book, Finding Your Own North Star, Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live, Martha Beck calls these Square One time period catalysts. These catalysts can spark changes that last anywhere from days to years, depending on the extent of the event. They are usually overwhelming and confusing, and no one can really tell you what to do.

However, Beck offers some beneficial guidelines that can help you understand where you are in your journey and support you in uncovering a deeper mission. When you arrive at Square One, you have an overwhelming sense that one way of life has died and a new one is being born, and it is impossible to go back to the way it was.

During a Square One, it’s common to ask yourself lots of questions. The key is navigating through them to step into who you were created to be.

Why Do I Feel So Confused?

If you’ve experienced a catalytic event, it’s OK to not know exactly what’s going on or what to do next. Chances are, you’ve arrived here in one of three ways:

  • Life shocked you. In other words, an outside event, negative or positive, occurred that dramatically changed your life. It had nothing to do with whether you deserved it or not; it just happened.
  • Life gave you an opportunity. Maybe you have been working for something for a long time, and it’s finally coming to fruition. It’s time to act, and now you must step up and stretch yourself like never before.
  • Life is transitioning. You have come to the realization that you must act on an inner yearning; you have dealt with frustration for far too long or a new exciting adventure is calling your name. The way things have been is no longer working for you. You …read more
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