How to Harness the Power of Your Emotions
Are you using your emotions to inform you or are you letting them control you?
Your mental and emotional baggage is primarily responsible for creating the discrepancy between what it is that you say you want and what you are actually experiencing on a daily basis. It’s the dominant driver behind your choices and behaviors, and can be the number one thing that derails you in your day-to-day life.
Can you think of a time when nothing was going your way and you blew up at your kids or partner the minute you walked in the door at home? Or, how about when you had looming deadlines or projects at work piling up, and the pressure built until you either got sick, quit your job, or exploded altogether? Can you recall a time when your partner’s behavior was irritating you and instead of having a calm, centered, and balanced discussion with the intention of resolving it, you instead said nothing, let it fester, and then sabotaged the relationship in one way or another? These are all examples of how your emotional baggage can derail you in everyday situations.
Your emotions—or feelings—are an integral aspect of who you are—good, bad and everything in between. Yet, you may not have not been taught how to navigate emotional upset in a productive and compassionate way, so the end result is often explosive. When you learn to accept your emotions, to lean into them, and be present with them in a healthy way, you can learn from them and begin to use them as a means of growing and evolving into a better person.
Power of Emotions
Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world—and vice versa. When you carry an inventory of unresolved negative emotions within you, you will filter your conversations, interactions, and experiences with others through your baggage, and react in a way that perpetuates more of the same in your outer world. For example, if you believe that you are stuck in life, and that you’ll never find a way out, the negative emotions associated with your beliefs will reinforce the way you see yourself in the world. You will begin to see yourself as being stuck in every area of your life.
Your emotions can be the thing that derails you, or they can inform you. Emotional intelligence is the differentiating factor—the key component to better understanding yourself and those with whom you interact. When your emotions inform you, you’re able to observe yourself and how you are feeling, taking it in as information without being affected. You know it’s emotional baggage when your emotions affect you to the point that you are charged up, feeling righteous in your position, or you’re adamantly defending or protesting what is happening.