How To Quiet Negative Thoughts In 5 Minutes Or Less. Simple steps for more peace and productivity
You’ve just come up with a great idea. You’re jazzed and can’t wait to share it with the world. And then without warning your excitement is hijacked and replaced with…
“Who do you think you are?
You could never pull this off.”
“What if no one else thinks it’s a good idea.”
“This is just silly.”
Da, Da, Da, Daahh….enter the dreaded negative thoughts that try to stop you in your tracks.
Every single person on this planet has negative thoughts. They happen.
Hell, just this past week alone… if I had a dollar for every negative thought I’ve had there’d be at least $70+ to add to my savings account. (That breaks down to about 10 negative thoughts per day, roughly.)
The issue isn’t really the negative thoughts themselves or that we have them. It’s how we react to them.. that’s the real issue.
Do we let them sit smack dab in the middle of our ideas until the air is squeezed out?
Do we allow them to be soul-squashers, confidence crushers, and dream killers?
Or do we find ways to quiet them?
WAYS TO QUIET THOSE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
I learned a long time ago that most, if not all, of my negative thoughts comes from my ego and my ego is one loud bitch. So I used to think that if I were louder she’d slink away like a dog that had been scolded for messing on the rug.
I’d internally scream at her and tell her to shut up…. to go away and to leave me a lone.
Did she? Nope.
The louder I got the louder she got. Now, rather than waste my energy or allow her negative diatribe to run away with my personal power I do any of the following.
Learn, Lean, and Leverage.
Negative thoughts hold information. They’re trying to tell us something and it’s often not what we think.
They’re not trying to tell us that we aren’t enough, (even if that’s what they’re saying) or that we can’t handle something, do something, be something.
To get beyond the negative bluster it helps to explore what they’re really trying to tell us. And to do so it helps to ask this question, “What is this negative thought trying to tell me?”
Is it trying to point out how scared we are?
Is it validating that what we’re about to do is important?
Once we know the source of the negative thought then we really lean into it by exploring our options. It’s those options that we leverage and use.
For example, if the source of my negative thought is fear of failing at something that’s important to me I’ll start making a list of options to deal with the fear of failing like…
I could quit. (Not really an option for me, but I list whatever comes up.)
I could break down my objective into tiny steps and begin with the easiest step first.
I could ask for help, etc.
Once I have brainstormed all my options I pick one and do it.