Rock Your Confidence in 5 Easy Steps!
Do Any of These Describe You?
- Can’t say No.
- Can’t stand up for yourself when some is mistreating or disrespecting you.
- Going against your values in order to please others.
- Taking on too much responsibility, draining your time and energy.
- Having difficulty communicating your wants and needs.
If you answered “yes” to most of these, then you may be surprised to find out that even though your actions have been well-intentioned, you are modeling low self-confidence, which can be easily past on to your children and damage other personal relationships. Think about it. Whom would your children respect more? – A mom who sets boundaries and is empowered or a mom whom is easily manipulated? And, as far as your personal relationships, who would be more desirable? – A woman who is confident and the opposite of needy or a woman who is a people pleaser and can be easily taken advantage of? Hands down, a confident woman wins every time! People admire strength and taking care of your needs can foster that admiration.
Developing more self-confidence isn’t something that has to be seen as a big undertaking, especially when much of it involves boundary setting. In fact, it can be accomplished rather quickly if you stick to making a few changes at a time. You would be surprised how quickly the results of these changes add up! Because I am a believer in keeping things simple, here is a list of suggestions that you can consider for changing any of the above behaviors that apply to you.
Can’t say No.
The next time someone asks you to do something, don’t answer on the spot but rather get into the habit of responding with something like, “Let me think about it, and I’ll let you know.” Then, in the comfort of your alone time without any pressure, weigh the pros & cons and be sure to discount any thoughts along the lines of “It’s just easier for everyone if I do it” or “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done the right way.” Your mind has been doing an excellent job of convincing you in the past of all the reasons you need to say “yes” to doing things without really considering your feelings. If after you decide that what you have been asked to do is something that you don’t want to do, don’t give a reason, but decline by simply saying, “I thought about it, and it’s …read more
Source: Steven Aitchison