The One Thing No One Tells You About Finding Your Life Partner

The One Thing No One Tells You About Finding Your Life Partner

There’s so much relationship advice out there about finding your life partner.

Do that. Do this. Say that. Say this.

Text him this. Call him then. Kiss him after…and on and on and on.

Don’t do this and don’t do that.

The litany of advice continues from the pages of Seventeen to Cosmo to Your Tango to every other relationship book out there.

You’re supposed to look a certain way, speak a certain way, act a certain way, text and call a certain way and do x, y and z in this timeframe to land the person of your dreams…except everyone forgets about the most important dating and relationship advice of all.

The most important relationship to cultivate before you land your life partner is the relationship you have with yourself!

Your partner cannot save you, heal you, complete you or make you whole. Your life partner cannot help you let go of the past, become emotionally stronger and bring you unending joy and happiness.

We spend so much time looking for and plotting how to land our ideal dream partner that we forget about the most important partnership in our life: the one with ourselves.

Forget about all the relationship advice you get. Forget about the ideal partnership that’s out there.

The only relationship that matters is the one you have with yourself. Get this relationship right and all the other relationships in your life will manifest themselves.

Get the insides right and the external parts will fall into place.

Here are 7 ways to improve your relationship with yourself.

Love yourself.

No one else can love you until you are in a full romance with yourself.

All the things you would do with and to a lover, do for yourself!

Romance yourself. Take yourself out. Speak sweetly to yourself. Think positive thoughts. Take yourself out. Spend quality time sleeping and resting.

Care for yourself like you would for someone you cared about.

Work on yourself.

This means working on the parts of yourself that require work.

Become the best version of yourself in a personal, spiritual, emotional and psychological capacity.

Get mentors, take classes, start spiritual practices and make constant improvement every day in the areas of your life you want to get better at.

Build new habits, work on new goals and make daily improvements in your life.

Heal yourself.

If there are emotions you must deal with or a past you must process, do the work.

Learn to sit with and work through difficult and challenging emotions. Look at the past …read more
Source: Steven Aitchison